How long should sex last?

Science finally answers this age-old question

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You'd be forgiven for thinking that we humans do nothing but talk about sex.
But even when us amorous apes actually stop doing the jaw-jaw and get down to business, there's still one question haunting our horny brains: just how long should our romps last?
If you're Sting or Puff Daddy, you'd probably say sex should go on for at least the length of a bank holiday weekend.

Whilst if you're an inexperienced spotty teenager, you'll probably be delighted if the time taken to complete a dirty deed matches the duration of an average Ariana Grande tune.
Now science has weighed in (again) to tell the world exactly how much time they should be spending in the act of physical love: 5.4 minutes.

"If you're a non-scientist, you might have once asked yourself, propped against the bedhead after disappointingly quick intercourse, how long does sex 'normally' last?" Dr Brendan Zietsch from the University of Queensland wrote in The Conversation .

"A scientist, though, would phrase the same question in an almost comically obscure way: What is the mean intravaginal ejaculation latency time?
"I know there's a lot more to sex than putting the penis into the vagina and ejaculating, but the rest is not always easy to define (kissing? rubbing? grinding?).

"To keep things simple and specific, we'll just focus on the time to ejaculation."
Dr Brendan Zietsch recounted a study in which 500 couples were armed with a stopwatch and asked to press the button (of the clock) when the unspeakable act begun and then tap it again when the man experiences his magical moment.

"That is as practically awkward as it sounds: participants pressed 'start' at penile penetration and 'stop' at ejaculation," he added.
"You may note this could affect the mood somewhat, and might perhaps not exactly reflect the natural flow of things.

"But science is rarely perfect, and this is the best we've got."
This study found that sexy time lasts anywhere between 33 seconds and 44 minutes, with the median time coming in at 5.4 minutes.


Interestingly, the research also explores "conventional wisdom regarding penile sensitivity and its relationship to staying power in the sack".
Older men weren't able to last longer than young ones, while wearing a condom or being circumcised didn't boost chaps' performance either.

"Another surprising finding was that the older the couple, the shorter the sex, contrary to the prevailing wisdom (probably peddled by older men)," Zietsch continued.

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How to up your sex game

Okay, you’ve got a repertoire, one that has been built over years of trial and error. But that’s not to say you can’t add a new club to the golf bag from time to time. It may well lift your game or least lower your handicap.

1. Stick to the shallows

The first third of the vagina is the most sensitive. In other words deep isn’t always meaningful. Modest incursions into the land of pleasure will not only stimulate her big time but the relative lack of friction on your, um, part will ensure your fireworks don’t go off before the end of the parade.

2. Vice-versa

Never underestimate the power of reciprocation in the bedroom. If there’s something you’d like her to do to you, do it to her first. And yes, I’m talking about going downtown – where you will be enthusiastic and diligent. You may also want to take a sip of champagne beforehand and let the bubbles do their thang.

3. Two inches is plenty

To quote John Cleese, “you don’t need to charge at the clitoris like a bull at a gate”. Broaden your focus by imaging a two-inch circle around her vagina. Consider this no man’s land and do not stray into it until she makes you. Concentrate on touching her lower stomach, upper thighs, hips with your fingertips and/or tongue.

4. Left and right, round and round

Just because you’re all about in and out, then repeat as needed, doesn’t mean she is. Learn something from popular vibrators which have a side to side movement. If you need to slow things down for yourself push your pelvis forward against hers to exert pressure on the clitoris. Then lift your hips slightly so that the tip of your penis is given a break from premature ejaculation inducing stimulation.

5. A helping hand

There’s no shame in enlisting some aid in the bedroom and personal lubricants have, for want of a better term, come a long way. Durex’s Play O Gel, $13.99 from chemistwarehouse.com.au, directs more blood flow to the clitoris with 79 per cent of women said they achieved orgasm after using it. Incorporate it into your foreplay ritual by applying a dab with your fingertips for a few minutes before any other action occurs. Believe us when we tell you she won’t think less of you for it, in fact just the opposite.

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7 Super Foods that make men better in bed

Having a healthy sex life plays an important part of our wellbeing.  Low libido in men is much more common than we are lead to believe. There are many reasons why men can lose their sex drive and simple factors like tiredness, stress, depression, certain medications (antidepressants and hypertensive drugs), excessive alcohol consumption, illicit drug taking, and low testosterone levels may all play a part.  Having a newborn can also put the breaks on your sex drive for a while due, primarily, to lack of sleep. Did you know that what you eat can also affect your desire for sex. Here are some foods that will help spice things up in the bedroom. Help you enjoy a better sex life.

1. Pumpkin and sunflower seeds

Snacking on these nutritious seeds will help boost your zinc levels. Zinc is one of the most important minerals needed to improve sperm health and quantity and boost testosterone levels. Seeds also contain healthy fats that are vital for sexual health. Add a handful to breakfast cereals, salads or to a trail mix.

2. Maca

This Peruvan superfood is considered ‘nature’s Viagra’ as it is a renowned aphrodisiac, improving sex drive and sexual performance. Maca is also rich in B vitamins, to help boost energy levels, and relieve stress. Add a spoonful to smoothies, soups or breakfast cereals.

3. Meat

Beef and pork contains high levels of L-Carnitine, an amino acid that can help boost libido, sexual function and testosterone levels in older men. L-carnitine also helps improve energy levels by increasing the burning of triglycerides as fuel in the body. 

4. Bananas

Bananas are an excellent source of B vitamins, needed to increase energy production and to dampen your stress levels. Bananas also contain tryptophan, an amino acid needed for serotonin production, our ‘feel good’ hormones. Bananas are also packed with potassium, used to produce sex hormones, and improve heart health and sex drive. Bananas also contain an enzyme called bromelain, which helps improve blood flow and increase libido.

5. Cacao

Cacao, or raw chocolate, is also a well-known aphrodisiac that is rich in potent antioxidants called phenols, which are good for your heart.  Of course, a healthy heart means a healthy sex drive. Cacao can lower cholesterol levels and blood pressure. When you eat chocolate you actually get an increase in endorphins, the same chemicals you release when you are in love. Cacao also contains phenylethylamine, a chemical that boosts dopamine levels, which increases your feelings of desire. Add a spoonful of cacao to smoothies, or enjoy some good quality dark chocolate.

6. Raw nuts

Snacking on raw nuts can help bring a spark back to your bedroom. Nuts such as almonds, cashews, Brazil and hazelnuts are rich in the amino acids L-Arginine, which boosts the production of nitric acid in the body, this will increase the production of sex hormones, and promote a firmer erection and better sexual performance. Nuts are also an excellent source of essential fatty acids, which are healthy fats needed for male sexual health. Add some mixed crushed nuts to muesli or salads, or add to smoothies.

7. Celery

Including more celery in your diet can also bring a spark back to your sex life. Eating celery can increase the pheromone androsterone, which is a natural aphrodisiac found in male perspiration. Celery also contains chemicals that can help dilate blood vessels, increase sex drive, and enhance climax. Try a vegie juice with celery, or snacking on this sex boosting vegie with hummus or almond butter.

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Best 5 Tips: How to get your woman to be wilder in bed

 Best 5 Tips on how to get your woman wilder in bed  

Today we discusses the importance of honesty and gives five fun tips on how to get you your woman to be a wild one in the bedroom


Many men ask me how they can get their female partners, from casual girlfriends to wives of decades of long marriage, to be more adventurous in the bedroom. Men may have dropped the hint which went nowhere, or initiated a kinkier than usual sexual activity that got rejected, so they become fearful, shy or anxious to broach the topic again.


Just like our appetite for food, our sexual appetite is unique to each one of us, and we each have our own favourite things we like, and specific things we dislike. Some people will be more open to trying something new, and others will staunchly refuse to try anything they are not familiar with. If two partners get together who are both open to new possibilities, it’s much easier to have a varied and experimental love life. When one partner is reluctant, the burden to encourage exploration falls to the other.
There are good and bad ways to do this “encouraging”. Usually springing a surprise without any forewarning is likely to be unsuccessful. Rather than be viewed positively, a radical suggestion out of the blue is more often going to lead your partner to wonder why the sudden change. She may question if you are unsatisfied (do not say yes to this question).
She may start to doubt her attractiveness to you, and her own sexual self esteem may plummet. She may even worry that you have met someone else, had an affair, and now want to try these new “kinky” things. These thoughts are all going to lead her down a path away from your goal.

Rather than being frustrated and admonishing to your partner for not wanting to initiate or respond to new sexual experimentations, you need to stay positive and nurturing, fostering her sense of confidence, sexiness, allure, desirability as well as fun and playfulness in bed.  Ask her to try one thing first, and make it romantic rather than a complete 180 degree change from your existing physical sexual repertoire.

1. Flattery will get you everywhere  

Praise how sexy and irresistible she is every day, both inside and outside the bedroom. Don’t go too heavy with this so she doesn’t believe you, be genuine

2. Be romantic   

It gets women in the mood. Put in a real effort, rather than asking her to respond to something new with tired old flirtation and predictable foreplay. If you want her to change her tune, you need to up your game too. Seduce her in the way you know she loves (hint: it worked for you in the beginning to get her to fall for you, so go back to that)

3. Manscape yourself            

Make yourself sexy and desirable to her. Don’t expect her to want to lust after you and get wild with you while you’re slouched on the sofa, unshaven in your track pants and giving her a little nudge with the line, “Hey, you in the mood tonight?”. Dress nicely, wear cologne. Impress her like you did in the beginning.

4. Ask her for something new to try   

Or give her a choice. Make it something she might warm to and give her the decision, that way she’s doing something she’s more likely to be into, rather than doing something just to please you.

5. Be playful, positive and praising    

Whether the experimentation of getting wilder went well on the first try or not. Change is a process, not always instant gratification.

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Why do we kiss with our eyes closed?

Psychologist reveals why we do it with our eyes shut

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Unless you are REALLY not feeling it or constantly vigilant, much like sneezing, kissing is nigh on impossible to with your eyes open.
Up until now, you've probably accepted it as 'just one of those things'. After all, who wants to get overly-analytical about kissing?

But as a study on vision and tactile sensory experience carried out by Royal Holloway, University of London revealed, there is one very good reason why we do it.

Simply put, our brains can't handle it.
Or, as the study more scientifically concluded, our grey matter struggles to process another sense while also concentrating on the visual stimuli - so looking at the object of our affections while kissing them.

However, before you sign up for any future studies on the same topic, it was in fact conducted without people kissing.
Instead, participants had to do visual tests while their response to something touching their hands was measured.

The tests involved letter-searching tasks which varied in difficulty, the Independent reported, and their response to a small vibration being applied to one of their hands was measured.
Academics Polly Dalton and Sandra Murphy, from the university, shared their findings in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Human Perception and Performance.

What did it mean for kissing?

Apparently, participants were less responsive to the sense of touch as their eyes did more work.

So for other activities necessitating a tactile sense - like kissing, dancing and sex - people tend to want to focus on touch, rather than have visual distractions.

It means we can concentrate our energy on the task at hand, and give it one hundred per cent of our effort.
And having been evolved this way for millions of years, it would be a bi off-putting to change now.

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11 Habits Of Every Ex After You Meet Someone New 

 

So you’ve finally gotten over that not-so-special someone and are moving on. But you might as well be sending your ex an invite, because they’re inevitably going to resurface.

A lot of factors can throw an otherwise calm person into reactionary mode: the finality of the breakup, the seeming need to rebound first, your accessibility via mutual friends or social media. It doesn’t (necessarily) make them a bad person; it doesn’t even (necessarily?) mean they want you to be unhappy.
Just don’t let their reactions be detrimental to your new romance. Knowing what to prepare for, even if you’re unable to control it, can help make the transition into a new relationship easier for everyone involved.

1. They become very active on social media.

   
   Despite being relatively silent on social media during your relationship, they’re suddenly blowing up Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. If you’ve managed to remain cordial enough to not block, unfollow or unfriend each other, they probably know you’re going to see it — whether it’s overly flattering pictures of themselves, updates flaunting the single life or depressing posts about a life forever alone.All these posts are meant to get your attention, and reacting might make this situation worse. Unless your ex is bothering you directly, ignore them … and they will tire themselves out eventually.

2. They start working out. Like, a lot.

   
   Working out is a common response to a relationship ending, and some people need a competitive push from a third party (in this case, the new person you’ve been dating). If your ex didn’t exercise much before, all those gym selfies may be meant to entice you back … or meant to intimidate your new suitor. Hopefully their intentions shift away from desperately showing off — and more towards general self-improvement — over time.
   

   
   

3. They will drunk dial.

   
   Their 2 a.m. phone calls weren’t cute when you were dating them, and they’re definitely not cute now that you’re with someone else. As much as you want to pity someone for doing this (hey, you’ve been there), encouraging this type of contact by answering doesn’t provide closure for anyone involved. It’s best to shut down over-served conversations immediately.

4. They will find stuff of yours to return/need something back.

   
   You’ve already exchanged breakup boxes, but all that stuff missing from yours has conveniently “turned up.” Whether your ex wants to return your possessions or demand theirs back, what they really want is an excuse to see you. If you’re over the relationship, the odds are you’re over the stuff lost along the way. Try to gauge whether or not seeing each other will help your ex get closure and move on — and if not, there’s always the post office.

5. They will suddenly need “a favor.”

   
   After going out of their way to show that they don’t need you post-breakup, now all of a sudden you’re the only person they can go to with a problem. Whether it’s an imagined or legitimate crisis, the timing of it all would make anyone feel manipulated. Ask yourself if you’re really the only person they could go to … and if that’s not the case, then exercise caution when getting involved at all.
   

   
   

6. They will show up in places where you used to show up together.

   
   When the relationship ended, you informally divided custody of your assets — friends and food spots, mostly — to avoid future turf wars. Now your ex is violating this agreement all over the place, and it’s weirding your friends and bartenders out.

7. They will try to hook up ASAP — maybe even with your friends.

   
   Finding out that an ex is not only having sex, but consistent sex with someone else, can make anyone hyper-competitive. Understand where it’s coming from, and don’t take their jealousy bait — it’s probably not worth sabotaging something new for.

8. They will try to get back together.

   
   Provoked by the new person of interest in your life, your ex may take a more emotional approach and attempt to reconcile completely. It’s probably too little, too late. Gently remind them (and yourself) that you cared about each other but broke up for a reason, and that reason is still pretty solid.
   

   
   

9. They will show their crazy side.

   
   Breakups are hard, and we’ve all acted in ways that we’re not proud of after heartbreak. Be cautiously compassionate about it, but do your best not to engage with any insane behavior that comes up. Unless you feel threatened, assume they’re just getting it out of their system.

10. They will attempt to be “friends.”

    
    Even when we want to be friends with an ex, sometimes that’s not possible until you’re both in other relationships. Maybe you two can be buddies someday, but if they seem a little too emphatic that they have zero romantic feelings anymore, that day probably hasn’t come yet.

11. They will bring their new person around.

    
    If you have mutual friends and social overlap, then there’s context for this. Your ex may have quietly started a new thing already and didn’t feel it was necessary to alert you (which is a good sign) or was just waiting for you to catch up before showing off. Appreciate the fact that you two can move on like adults and be happy for each other.
    
    If you’re not in the same social circle and there’s no context for this type of run-in, then it is possibly a weird power move. Be happy the person you’re with now is a step up from that nonsense.

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The online dating site sued for targeting married people

An online dating site that targets married people is being accused of breaking the law. A court in France must now decide whether the company is illegally encouraging spouses to cheat. 

Is it permitted for a dating website to promote adultery, when fidelity in marriage is written into French civil law?

That is the question underlying a law-suit targeting the French company Gleeden, which boasts that it is the world's leading "extra-conjugal site conceived for married women".

Angered by Gleeden's provocative advertising on the public transport system, the Association of Catholic Families (ACF) has filed a civil case contesting the site's legality.

It might seem odd in this permissive age, but family lawyers agree that the ACF plea has a respectable chance of succeeding.

This is because the notion of fidelity as constituting an integral part of marriage is specifically spelt out in the French civil code.

In France, all law is based on written codes (penal code, labour code, commercial code etc) which can be amended by parliament. Judges are free to interpret the codes, but their room for manoeuvre is much more limited than in a common law system like the UK's.

And in Article 212 of the Civil Code, it states: "Married partners owe each other the duty of respect, fidelity, help and assistance."

"There are plenty of other websites out there which promote sexual contact between individuals, but what makes Gleeden different is that its very business model is based on marital infidelity," says Jean-Marie Andres, president of the Association of Catholic Families.

"It states quite openly that its purpose is to offer married women opportunities to have sex outside the marriage.

"But here in France, people and parliament are all in agreement that marriage is a public commitment. It's in the law. What we are trying to do with our suit is show that the civil code - the law - has meaning."

Gleeden does not demur from the accusation that it is aimed at married women. Far from it. Married women are its unique selling point.

The advertisements which caused such horror among conservatives and Catholics blatantly encourage wives to think that cheating is both permissible and fun.

One poster displayed on buses and metros shows an attractive young woman in a bridal dress with her fingers crossed behind her back. The message is clear: vows are for suckers.

Founded in 2009, the website says it has 2.3 million members in Europe including one million in France. It has smaller operations in the US and other countries.

Under the Gleeden model, women do not pay to be registered on the site. Men buy credit, opening up different levels of access to registered women. Though accurate information on this is impossible to obtain, Gleeden says 80% of the people who use it are indeed married.

Margot, a Parisian aged 44, is one such user. She has been married for many years, but says she is unsatisfied sexually. However she has no intention of leaving her husband.

Solene Paillet Gleeden

 

"I chose Gleeden precisely because it is for married people. It means that the person you meet knows your situation. There's no deception. We can talk openly about husbands, wives and children. 

"Also when we are both married, we both accept we only want to go so far in the relationship. It's easier to keep things uncomplicated. We respect each other's private life."

Margot admits however that most of the men she has met via Gleeden have been sub-optimal. "Nearly all of them have been charlatans," she says.

And she understands why some people might be shocked by the way the website promotes itself.

"Let's face it - it is promoting infidelity. In fact, it's selling infidelity. It's making money out of it. People could easily be pushed into the act after seeing those advertisements," she says.

"But let us not be hypocritical. It's not black and white. In most marriages at some point there is infidelity, but that does not mean the marriages collapse. Sometimes the infidelity is what saves the marriage."

Gleeden representatives make a similar point. "We have plenty of clients who tell us that having a secret garden is what saved them from walking out of the marriage," says spokeswoman Solene Paillet.

But her main argument is free speech. "We didn't invent adultery. Adultery would exist whether we were there or not," says Paillet.

"All we are doing is filling a demand. If people see our advertisements and are shocked, well there is no obligation. If you see a nice car in an ad, you aren't obliged to buy it. You make your own mind up."

Lawyers say that the AFC case is far from frivolous. Article 212 does have force in law.

"Juridically speaking, the case has a solid base. By organizing relationships between married people, it is possible to argue that Gleeden is inciting couples to violate their civic duty," says Stephane Valory, a specialist in family law.

"However there is no certainty about it. In a case like this the courts will also take into account the changing moral values of modern society. The notion of a duty to fidelity is quite loose.

"Fifty years ago many more people would have been shocked by what Gleeden is offering. Today it is only a minority who notice. So the courts will certainly not rule in the same way as they would have 50 years ago."

That may well be true because 50 years ago the old penal code was still in force, which made adultery an actual crime. Under the 1810 code, a woman caught in adultery could be imprisoned for up to two years - while a man received only a fine!

In fact the clause had long been a dead letter before it was abrogated in 1975.
Today - especially after the Charlie-Hebdo attack - a far more sensitive issue in France is the encroachment of religion into public life.

The separation of religion and state is held as a supreme good, and courts may look askance at a plea motivated by Catholic abhorrence.

On the other hand the lack of checks on 21st Century permissiveness is arguably a factor pushing some to religious fundamentalism.

The judges shall decide.

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Make A Good Boyfriend

Would He Make A Good Boyfriend? Science Just Found A Quick Way To Tell 

Researchers from McGill University believe they’ve discovered a method to figure out if a guy may be boyfriend material. And all you need is a ruler.

GET YOUR MIND OUT OF THE GUTTER. It has to do with finger length. According to the new study, published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences, men whose ring fingers are longer than their pointers are nicer to women.
The research was based on 155 men and women recording their social interactions over three weeks. The guys with longer ring fingers compared to their index fingers were roughly 30% more agreeable.
“[M]en with smaller ratios were more likely to listen attentively, smile and laugh, compromise or compliment the other person,” concluded psychology professor Debbie Moskowitz, the study’s lead author.

However, the difference wasn’t apparent when these men interacted with other males. These findings correspond with prior research that concluded men with a smaller ring-to-index-digit ratio tend to have more children. And it’s all determined by hormone exposure while developing in the womb. “It is fascinating to see that moderate variations of hormones before birth can actually influence adult behavior in a selective way,” professor Simon Young added.

So guys, next time you crash and burn in a relationship, people will probably tell you to take a good, hard look at yourself in the mirror to figure out what went wrong — but maybe you should just take a good, hard look at your hands?

Of course, there’s probably a lot more to personality than mere finger length, so we’re guessing you shouldn’t make relationship choices based on that alone. Still, E.T. must’ve been a very sh-tty boyfriend.

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How to Attract Men in a Way They Can’t Resist!

There’s an evolutionary secret that can help you understand how to attract men and make them desire you instantly. And the real secret’s right here.

The science of attraction between the sexes, as complicated as it may seem, is pretty simple to explain in a few lines.
Girls are more easily attracted to a guy who appears healthy and stress-free, has a good level of testosterone which makes him appear more manly and chiseled, and has a protective streak in him which makes him a good mate material and a father.
Guys, on the other hand, are more easily attracted to girls based on their appearance or behavior.

But that’s not it though.
To truly understand how to attract men and how a man’s mind works, we need to get deeper into the concept of attraction from the male point of view.

 How to attract men in a way they can’t resist
A guy may like a girl for different reasons, but when it comes to physical or sexual attraction at first sight, her physical appearance and her behavior matters more than anything else.
So if you want to attract a man and make him desire you, you just need to get his attention the right way. And the rest, as they say, is history!
You need to keep this in mind though, love and attraction are two completely different things. A guy may find you extremely attractive, yet he may not end up falling in love with you for his own reasons.

But for love to blossom in the first place, you need to build the sexual attraction before you make him fall in love with you. It’s the safest way to make sure the guy falls for you and stays in love with you.

Attraction and how a man views a woman’s body
As we know that physical attraction plays a very big part in attracting a guy, you need to understand what a guy’s mind tells him when he sees you and sizes you up.
When a guy sees a girl’s physical assets, he subconsciously sees more than just your breasts or your butt. The right curves in all the right places tells a guy that a girl is fertile and has come of age, and that she’s healthy because her body can afford to waste energy on developing her curves which play the biggest role in sexual attraction.
A guy may think a girl is attractive. But in his subconscious mind, he’s gauging you as the woman who may carry his offspring one day.

Testosterone and a man’s sexual preference
Every man produces testosterone, a sexual hormone, in his testes. And women produce a small amount of testosterone in their ovaries. The more testosterone a man produces, the more manly he looks and the more sexually virile he is. His facial features appear manlier, his jaws are wider and more chiseled and his voice is deeper.

And several studies have shown that the more manly a man is, the more attracted he’d be to women who exhibit feminine traits *girlie, cute traits*.

On the other hand, a small percentage of men who produce a lesser-than-normal amount of testosterone may find themselves getting more attracted to women who are less feminine and more controlling and dominant in the relationship.

So if you’re trying to catch the attention of a typical guy *a large percentage of men have normal or high production of testosterone even though the overall average testosterone levels have dropped significantly in American men over the last 50 years*, chances are, he’d love you if your behavior is more feminine, cute and girly!

The perfect woman for a real man – She’s cute and sexy
A regular man who isn’t suffering from low testosterone would always find a feminine woman more attractive than a woman who thinks femininity is overrated and displays traits that are traditionally considered manly.
While a girl’s physical appearance is the biggest sign of femininity, at times, it helps if you can display more femininity in your behavior. No, I’m not saying pink frills and scented paper. But there are always other ways to appear cuter and get a guy to take a second and third look at you.

Why do guys like cute girls?
Men have always been the more aggressive sex in the human species. They’re usually the ones who spread their legs wider, stand tall and swell their chest up while trying to appear threatening all the time, more so when they’re in an argument or when they meet someone they see as a threat in any manner.
But cute changes everything. When a girl behaves in a cute and feminine manner, it brings out the protective instincts of a man. Instead of feeling threatened by a feminine girl, he feels protective about her. That makes him feel more masculine, and that’s something every guy loves to feel!

When a girl reveals her vulnerable side to a guy, it’s very hard for any guy to ignore her or avoid noticing her vulnerability. And the instant his mind connects with her vulnerability, it eliminates any thoughts of a threat and his protective side creates a bond of protection and attachment with her.
He feels the need to be around her, and his subconscious mind tries very hard to make her feel protected, comfortable and loved around him. He loses his aggressive stance, the tone of his voice softens down, and his shoulders droop down towards her instead of spreading wide. And before he even gives attraction a second thought, he’d realize that he likes the girl already!

Traits of a cute and feminine girl that draw real man
Many girls are against the idea of being feminine or behaving in a cute manner. To a typical feminist, behaving in a demure or coy manner is a sign of weakness. And they can’t accept that a guy finds a cute *and dare, we say it… submissive* girl more attractive than a girl who likes to be a non-girlie girl.

If you’re feminine, you don’t really have to be cute. But if you can pull off a perfectly cute personality, it would only add to your allure and make you more desirable among men.
To understand cute behavior better, all you need is to interact with a couple of Japanese or Thai girls whose behavior isn’t influenced by us Americans. They’re not meek or silly, nor do they have to behave like stupid bimbos to win a guy’s affection. All they have to do is flaunt what sets them apart, and that’s their femininity and grace.

And no testosterone laden guy can resist the allure of a sweet Asian girl when he’s having a conversation with her. Everything about them makes them appear more beautiful and feminine, right from their cute heart signs with inverted hands, the way they nod their heads, the way they behave while having a conversation with you to the way they smile coyly and yet so warmly.

Femininity comes naturally to some girls *not just Asian girls*, but it’s an art that’s worth learning. If you want to know how to attract men, all you need to do is exude your feminine side while talking to them. And once you try that, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

And remember, a cute girl who displays her feminine side will always have an edge over all other girls when she’s trying to catch the attention of a real man!

How to bring out your feminine side naturally
Femininity comes naturally. But cuteness can be created by the way you behave.
Additionally, if you’re on a date with a guy and want to come across as a girl who’s in touch with her femininity, here are a couple of tips for you.

#1 Dress in softer pastel colors like peach or mauve. The color will give your skin tone a healthy glow that makes you look warm and likeable instantly.
#2 Smile more often. A smile can make you appear more pleasant and friendly.
#3 Run your fingers through your hair delicately. Always works for any guy!
#4 Tip your head slightly downwards when you’re blushing or smiling, and look at him from under your eyebrow.
These four tips may sound bizarre for a feminist or a cute-bashing girl, but trust me, it will do wonders for your date!

A tip to remember – Don’t be yourself if you can be better
Contrary to popular belief, don’t be yourself. Evolve.
When someone tells you that the best way to attract someone is by being yourself, well, they’re not entirely right. All of us change all the time. And not every change that we see in ourselves may be in the right direction.

Who are you? How would you define yourself? We are who we are because of our socioeconomic status, the people around us, and other influences we’ve had in our lifetime. A lucky few may have had the opportunity to be influenced by the perfect examples, while most of us have to change to become better individuals. Or worse, we never get to become better individuals  or achieve the full potential that’s within us because we’re convinced we’re all perfect already.

You don’t have to change yourself just to attract men, but change yourself to become a better you. Have you ever walked into a room full of attractive women, and found yourself thinking that a few of those girls were better than you in some way? When you meet a woman and find yourself in awe of her for any reason at all, it only means you admire and want some particular trait of hers that you lack yourself.
If you like a trait about a friend, be it her spontaneity, her courage, her carefree attitude, her posture, or the way she dresses up, your mind may subconsciously like that trait because you want to see that trait in yourself. A change of this kind is good, where you see something you like and want to see that in yourself.

A girl who is the epitome of perfection in every way *if she does exist* won’t be awed by anyone else. On the other hand, everywhere she goes, she’d be the girl that would receive compliments, stares and awed jaws!

So change often, become the dream girl you fantasize about in your head, and be the girl you really want to be. And life will turn out to be so much better for you, be it about men, work, friends or anything else.
It’s easy to push a thought away and assume it’s wrong to be feminine or assume it’s a bad thing to change. But trust me, change is good. And change is inevitable. So you’re going to change whether you like it or not. And you have a choice to become a better you, or a worse you

The last word about the science of attraction between the sexes
We’re all animals, and you shouldn’t forget that. We may be wearing pants or walking on two feet, but that doesn’t change our primal instincts. We still chase each other and woo each other just like the animals in the wild.
The male and female sexes still play games to win each other’s affection. Human males still like to woo a female through their display of brute strength, dexterity or their sheer awesomeness. And a man laden with male hormones wants a woman who’s graceful and feminine, because subconsciously, it makes him feel more like a man.
You don’t have to pretend to be dumb or weak, nor do you have to behave like the weaker sex just to attract a man. All you need to do is revel in your femininity and display your cuteness, and give the man you like a chance to bask in his manliness and show off his protectiveness!

Understanding how to attract men is really simple. Enjoy your femininity and let the world see it. The men will come, yes, they’ll come in droves!

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What do Men Like in Bed?

Turning a man on and making him desire you is simple, if you know the rules. Find out the little things that can make a big difference in bed, for you and your man. So what do men like in bed? Find out here.

Every man has his own wants and desires in bed.

But there are a few things that all men like in bed, with no exclusions.

What do men like in bed
Having a great time in bed isn’t just about what a woman does to a man, but how the experience turns out.
Use these pointers and your quickie shagathons will turn into horny marathons in no time.
So what do men like in bed and what do they want in a woman? Well, find out…

#5 A woman who can communicate her needs
As a relationship grows, you may start to expect a lot from your man, especially in bed.
But you have to remember that your man is not telepathic. He seriously can’t read your mind.
At times, especially while trying new things in bed, you really have to communicate with your man and tell him exactly what you want.
Holding his head and maneuvering it under the sheets in a dark room would just confuse your man.
If you want him to pay more attention to some part of your body, whisper it to him.
Communicating in bed will help your man relax and focus more on sex rather than on reading your mind!

#6 A girl who can initiate sex
While girls are usually the coy and bashful gender, it’s always great for a man when the tables are reversed.
Do you ever initiate sex? Well, we’re not talking about the ‘can-we-have-sex’ kind of request. Have you ever sat down on your man while he’s watching the telly and dragged him to your den to have sex?
You have your own sexual needs too, and men do like it when their woman initiates a good romp. Speak your mind and share your own thoughts too. Don’t be shy, instead be brash and tell him exactly what you want. He’ll be more than happy to listen to you, and will only desire you more.

#7 A girl who takes control
Men do like taking control of sex, but at times, it’s more relaxing and exciting to be violated by a girl they desire!
Instead of the weekly routine of quietly getting on top of each other in turns, play the lead, and he’ll love that. It’s a secret fantasy for all men, and they absolutely love it when a girl takes control and has her way with him. Dominate him, tie his hands to the bed post or order him to do your bidding. While this may border on a fetish, it’s still exciting for any man.

Your man would find the whole idea of lying back in bed with his eyes closed while you play with him pretty tempting. He can relax and just enjoy your touch, with no pressure of performance or trying to satisfy you. Seriously, which guy wouldn’t like that?
After all, there’s a lot of psychological pressure on a man to perform well in bed and satisfy you. And when you take control of him, he can feel free to drift into pleasure land without a care about anything else.

#8 A woman who can fake an orgasm
This is a selfish issue, but men swell on egos and deflate real fast when their egos are crushed. And one of the biggest ego crushers for a man is not satisfying his woman in bed.

Your man may be sweating, panting, and prolonging sex as much as possible to ensure that you have a great time in bed. But at times, it just doesn’t happen. And he may end up finishing the deed before you reach for the sky and flop down in bed. During times like these, a man can feel really let down and crushed. Your man will love it when you call him a sex god with turrets, but he’ll crawl into a hole just as easily when he feels like he’s underperformed in bed.

It’s always best to be frank in bed and tell your partner if you’re not enjoying sex or don’t really like doing something in bed. But occasionally, it would really help a man’s ego if you can fake an orgasm when you sense that he’s not able to last long enough. He’ll be really grateful for your kindness even though he’ll never know that he underperformed! You could always tell him about that day when he’s on a winning streak in bed.

But if it happens on a regular basis, you really have to tell him the truth even if his ego may crumble to dust.
So if you’re wondering what do men like in bed, just use these eight tips on what men like in bed to help you out. And before you know it, you’ll have a man who’ll worship you in bed, and desire you all the time!

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A hug made history in India

How a hug made history in India

When Delhi's new leader tweeted a tribute to his wife with a picture of them hugging after his extraordinary victory in elections, he made a little history in India. BBC Hindi's Rupa Jha reports - with a little bit of envy.

Imagine you are playing a word association game. The first phrase is "Indian politics" - so what word do you come up with in return? Is it "aggression"? Maybe.

Is it "affection"? No. Surely not. Not in the normal order of things. But this week it might just be.
'Thank you Sunita'
 
Arvind Kejriwal, the anti-corruption activist, scored an astounding political victory earlier this week by capturing almost all of Delhi's assembly seats.

When the scale of his win became clear he tweeted out a picture of a hug with his wife.

"Thank you Sunita" - it said, his hand upon her shoulder. His wife, a bureaucrat, looked coy and blushed. Then he hugged her.

In a political culture dominated by male posturing and elitism, this was a moment that brought a tear to my eye - a rare moment of tenderness. It seems fitting that he gets sworn in on Valentine's Day.

Sunita Kejriwal will not be recognisable to most supporters of Mr Kejriwal's party, AAP. But her husband has given her credit for supporting him - they live in her government flat she has as a result of her job as a senior tax inspector. She has reportedly said that as a government servant it is not appropriate for her to comment on politics.

Mr Kejriwal has spoken of how they met during training at the Indian Revenue Service. He walked up to her one day and asked her to marry him - which she did.

As the hug flashed on the TV screens, many around me were visibly moved. It was akin to that "Obama moment" for Indians - when the US president tweeted a picture of him and his wife hugging upon re-election.

Mr Obama said recently of his wife: "She inspires me every day. She makes me a better man and a better president."

To be honest, looking at foreign politicians publicly acknowledging their partners' contribution and being unafraid of showing them affection has made me somewhat envious.
Taboo hugs
 
One of the more romantic and tragic stories in recent Indian political history is the love affair between Rajiv and Sonia Gandhi. Once he was prime minister, the images were cautious and dignified.

Rajiv and Sonia Gandhi were a much photographed first couple

Former PM Manmohan Singh and his wife Gursharan Singh made a number of public appearances together

Indians often wonder why our politicians cannot be more relaxed about such gestures. Public displays of affection are taboo for men in politics in this country.

Politicians in India have always insisted on projecting themselves as people whose only love is serving the motherland and the people. Their partners are rarely seen in public.

It's not just politicians who fail to acknowledge the role played by their partners in their lives. It's a far more pervasive phenomenon.

The Kejriwal hug was certainly a contrast to Prime Minister Narendra Modi, who didn't even acknowledge the existence of his wife until last year. It was only when he fielded his election papers that he publicly disclosed his marriage.

It barely dented Mr Modi's public image. In Indian politics, the renunciation of marital life for public service is often not only encouraged but also revered.

Jashodaben and Narendra Modi were married - and separated - at a young age. 

 

But it is not entirely fair to judge Mr Modi, who was after all apparently married off at a very young age. The couple agreed to separate long before he could have known where he would end up.
A hug makes good politics
 
With his public hug, Arvind Kejriwal made a big political and social statement - a statement of equality, a public acknowledgement of his wife's contribution to his political career.

Many women have responded online and it has been much commented on.

 

 

With this gesture, the AAP co-founder has endeared himself to millions of Delhi's women - a crucial vote bank as nearly six million women voted in the capital last week.

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Talk about a perfect match.

This Woman Gave Her Kidney to a Total Stranger — Now They're Engaged 

Ashley McIntyre knew she was changing someone's life when she donated her kidney — but had no idea that this decision would have a major impact on her life, too.

She was listening to the radio when she heard the story of Danny Robinson, a 25-year-old who suffered from kidney disease and had spent three years on a waiting list for a transplant. McIntyre took action, getting in touch with the radio host and the

University of Kentucky's transplant program. It turns out she was a suitable match, and they went forward with the donation process.
McIntyre and Robinson, along with their families, met for the first time at a Cheesecake Factory around a month before the procedure. "We all clicked immediately," McIntyre told the Courier-Journal. "They told me I would always be a part of their family."

The two kept in touch for the next few weeks, texting and chatting on the phone. They thought about dating, but were worried things would get weird if the procedure didn't actually work. But last April, the procedure went off without a hitch, and Robinson had a new lease on life — and no excuses not to pursue McIntyre.

The two started getting serious soon after, and McIntyre became pregnant with their daughter, who is due in June. Robinson proposed over the holidays. "On Christmas Day, we went to my mom's and started opening gifts," he said. "I told her I'd forgotten one and pulled out a small box" with a ring.
"I never in a million years imagined this would happen," McIntyre said. "It's crazy how it all worked. It was all planned out by God."

 

Post by Danny Robinson.

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This Will Make Your Ex Go Crazy For You

This Will Make Your Ex Go Crazy For You

 

I am going to show you a rock solid technique you can use right away and get instant results. This technique is so effective that your ex will start missing you and will desperately desire you again right away! Ready to get started?

Do you know that humans normally have a tendency to take things for granted? We don’t really value the air we breathe but we only understand how important it is when we run out of it. So you see similarly your ex doesn’t really value you at the moment because by chasing them around you have already shown them that you need them. But you see, the pain of loss is far greater than the pleasure of gain. Humans would do anything to save what they already have instead of gaining something new. I don’t why it is this way but this is the way human psychology functions.

Therefore, what you are going to do now is create a sense of loss in your ex’s mind where he/she would feel constant emptiness & a sense of anxiety. Pretty much like what you are going through right now. Okay here is what I want you to do. I want you to get in touch with your ex via SMS or E-mail. Why SMS or E-mail? Well, for the simple reason that your ex will always attend to your SMS or E-mail even when they have been trying to avoid you.

This is the message you must write in the text:

“I wanted to tell you that you were right about the breakup…I guess we do need space. Amazingly something wonderful happened recently…I guess when things happen they happen for a reason…You know what?”

Now this might sound incomplete with the final “You know what?” line, but that is the big trick here, leaving it incomplete will raise your ex’s level of curiosity and he/she will get highly eager to know the rest of the message. Don’t be too surprised if your ex calls you right away. This is where you need to be very careful. You should not return or attend their call right away, it is very important that you must follow through with my advice in my manual “Pull your ex back”.

Now let me tell you why this would work. By sending this message, you are doing everything that would persuade them to desire you once again. You are indirectly telling them “You don’t need them anymore”, this would seriously bother them as you have just told them that they don’t have you anymore, which would create massive feeling of loss within them. This will make them want you more than ever before.

You are telling them that you have already moved on and they will think how could you be over it so fast all of a sudden?

You are telling them that the breakup didn’t bother you that much. The fact that it didn’t bother you that much will bother them. They will find the fact that you got over them so fast hard to swallow.

By telling them that something wonderful recently happened in your life they would fear that maybe you already found someone else. This will trigger their fear of loss to unbearable levels, and at the same time the fear that you have found someone else will emotionally push them to know more and more.

The next step is very important, read carefully.

Now you will see magic unfold right in front of your eyes. I want you to listen very closely here. The guy/girl who was trying to avoid you all this time will literally be begging to have your attention after this point on. After you have sent the above mentioned message, your ex will probably call you or send you a message to know the rest. In this case tell them that you have something important to say and would like to get on the phone, to which your ex cannot really refuse since he/she is already jumping up and down with curiosity to know the rest of the message.

Once you are on the phone with them, make small conversation and then tell them that you have something really important you would like them to know, and then hesitate, say:

“Ummm! Well! I don’t know how to say this…But…I guess I shouldn’t tell you…But…” And then go quiet.

At this your ex would probably force you, but hesitate a bit more and then say:

“Sorry…I don’t think I should tell you…I gotta go!

And then hang up! That’s it, no more and no less! Don’t drag it, keep it short and hang up. Now do you know what you have done? Well, surprise surprise! Before your ex was just curious but now he/she would be burning with a compelling desire to know what you really wanted to tell them. They would find it hard to relax and get over the fact that you had something to say but never said it. And why would this work? Well, humans have a tendency to desire what they can’t have, and that desire turns into a burning obsession with time.

There is another great saying which goes: “Keep them hungry and they will keep coming back”.

Therefore now you have made your ex extremely hungry and he/she will keep coming back for more until you satisfy their hunger.

I am sure you’re really excited by now, but wait, let me strongly warn you here. This trick will work surprisingly well for you, BUT, doing this does not mean things will be smooth from this point on.

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